One of the top lies in today's culture is that God isn't enough. People say "if only" I had this or "if only" I had that, then I'd be happy. For example:
"If only I had God and a boyfriend, I'd be happy (for more on that, see here).
"If only I had God and parents that didn't fight, then I'd be happy."
We don't realize that God is enough to satisfy us. If the only thing we had in the world was Jesus, we could be happy. Notice how I said we could be happy, not that we would be happy. I said that because if we don't realize how amazing God really is, then we won't be happy. If we stay in that "if only" mindset, then we can't truly be happy. We're believing Satan when he says that we need more than God to satisfy us. But that isn't true. If I had nothing that was valuable to me, no clothes, no house, no anything, but I still had Jesus, I would still be happy. Because Jesus is really all you need. [My God will meet all your needs. He will meet them in keeping with his wonderful riches that come to you because you belong to Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19] This scripture is a promise from God that anything we need will be given to us by God. It doesn't say that our boyfriend will meet all our needs. It doesn't say that our favorite music artist will meet all our needs. It says that God will meet all our needs. If you're looking to things of this world to fulfill your needs, you're looking in the wrong place. You might find temporary satisfaction in a boyfriend or other things of this world, but you won't find lasting satisfaction until you find Jesus Christ.
I know this post was kinda short, but I hope that you took what I said to heart and will look to God for true and lasting satisfaction.
Have you ever felt like no one cares about you? Not God, not your parents, not your best friend, nobody? I know I have. We all go through seasons where we feel like no one cares and we feel all alone. Well no matter how far away God seems, He is always there. You’re not feeling this loneliness because everyone has left you, you’re feeling it because Satan wants you to believe the lie that you’re alone and that no one loves or cares about you. But that is not true whatsoever. Even if everyone else in the world were to leave you, you will always have Jesus there for you. Here are 5 scriptures to help you battle loneliness.
1. Deuteronomy 31:8
[The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.]
This scripture is what God told Moses to tell Joshua when Joshua was going to succeed Moses as the Israelites’ leader into the Promise Land. It was a promise from God to Joshua, but it’s still a promise today to you and me.
2. Psalm 91:15
[When they call to me, I will answer them; when they are in trouble, I will be with them.]
This is a promise that we should never forget. Jesus will be with you in all your troubles.
3. Isaiah 43:1-5
[Do not be afraid. I will save you. I have called you by name—you are mine. When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you; your troubles will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire, you will not be burned; the hard trials that come will not hurt you. For I am the Lord, your God. … because you are precious to me and because I love you and give you honor, do not be afraid—I am with you!]
This is my favorite scripture for when I’m feeling lonely. It’s comforting for me to know that no matter what trials I face in life, Jesus will always walk through them with me every step of the way.
4. Matthew 28:20
[I will be with you always, to the end of the age.]
This promise reminds us that God will be with us until we die.
5. Psalm 27:10
[For my father and my mother have forsaken me, But the Lord will take me up.]
This verse is exactly what I was saying in the first paragraph. That even if everyone in the world turns on you, God will always be there with you.
If you struggle with loneliness I encourage you to write these verses down and put them on your bedroom/bathroom mirror, your locker, your car, your notebook, or anywhere else you’ll see them often. Don't give Satan the satisfaction of knowing that you believe that no one cares for you or that no one is there for or with you.
I know that many girls my age struggle with their identity. They place their identity in earthly things that will not matter when Judgement Day comes. [The world and it's desires pass away... 1 John 2:17] Here are 3 common places we misplace our identity as teenage girls.
1. Outward Appearance
This is quite possibly the number one place where we misplace our identity. [Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 1 Peter 3:3] I don't think this scripture is saying that it's wrong to fix our hair, wear jewelry, or wear cute clothes. I think what it's saying is that we shouldn't focus so much on our outward appearance that we don't worry about our inward appearance. (For more on that, check out my last post). It also implies that we should not place our identity in our outward appearance. Your worth is not found in your beauty. The Bible says that when we get to heaven we will have new bodies, so why place our identity in something that isn't going to last?
2. Relationship Status
Another place teenage girls misplace their identity is in their relationships. Whether or not they have a boyfriend. Whether or not they have a best friend, or any friends at all. They think that a boyfriend will give them lasting satisfaction. But the truth is, only God can give you lasting satisfaction. Your best friend or group of friends will move on to college after high school, and so will you. I'm not saying that you won't stay friends with your high school bestie, but there is a chance that you won't. You and your boyfriend may get married, or you may not. Or, it might be God's will for you to be single for the rest of your life. I know that may not seem like a pleasant thought to some of you, but it's all up to God. So there's no point in placing your identity in a relationship that has an equal chance of ending as it does lasting.
All your talents are 100% God given. Yes, you practice to become good at what you do, but who gave you the ability to practice? God. Whether it's a sport, an instrument, school, or anything else you're good at, you are not defined by how good you are at a certain sport or activity. You should not place your identity in a sport because of the scripture I wrote above [The world and it's desires pass away... 1 John 2:17] When you get to heaven, how much will all your first place trophies and medals matter? We aren't going to be judged by God based on how many A's we got or how well we are at playing guitar.
Our identity is found in Christ alone. Not our beauty, boyfriends, best friends, or talents. Everything in the world will pass away. Everything that is so important to us now will be unimportant when we're in heaven. Don't place your identity in earthly things. Place your identity in Christ.
Last Tuesday I talked about outer beauty, so today I'm going to talk about inner beauty. People aren't going to only notice your outer beauty. They also notice your inner beauty. Are you displaying the fruit of the Spirit? [But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23] People are gonna know you're a Christian by how you look on the inside. Jesus tells this to His disciples: [Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles? So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will recognize them by their fruits. Matthew 7:15-20] If you're wondering what trees have to do with us, the trees represent people. If we don't bear good fruit, the fruit of the Spirit, then we will be cut down from God and be thrown into the fire, which is hell. How many hours do you spend every day making your outside look beautiful? What if we spent that much time every day making our inside look as beautiful as our outside? Think about it this way. When you die, do you want people to say "You know, she was really pretty." Or do you want them to say "You know, she was really loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. I really saw Jesus in that girl." I know that I personally would much rather be remembered for my love of Christ than for my outer beauty. You should want that too. I used to struggle to show the fruits of the Spirit. Don't get me wrong, I still struggle sometimes, I'm far from perfect, but I'm better than I used to be. The thing that helped me to be better at showing Christ through the fruits of the Spirit, was practicing one new fruit every day. For example, today you'll focus on showing love to everyone around you, no matter how unlovable they may seem. That doesn't mean you disregard the other fruits today, it just means that you'll work extra hard to specifically show love. Then Wednesday you'll work on showing both love and joy. Then Thursday you'll work on love, joy, and peace and so on until you go through all nine fruits. If you need to, start over after you go through all the fruits. Keep starting over every nine days until you are able to show all the fruits every day to everyone. I started over several times until I got better. It won't be easy, trust me, but you'll find that it's so worth it when people start seeing the love of Christ in you. I know you can do it. I'm praying for you!
[Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is- his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2]
Peer pressure is a big struggle in Christian teens today. Everyone wants to fit in. Everyone wants to be accepted by their peers. But sometimes, in order to be accepted, we are pressured to lower our standards. Sometimes it's easy to know what's right, but knowing what's right and doing what's right are two totally different things. Here are 3 tips to help you battle peer pressure.
1. Know What's Right and Why It's Right
It's easy to fall into peer pressure when you don't know what's right. And not only do you have to know what's right, you have to know why it's right. When you refuse to follow the things of this world, have your reason ready for when the questions come.
2. Set Standards
When you set standards, you have motivation to not follow the world. Your motivation is that you have a certain standard and you want to achieve that standard.
3. It's Not Worth Losing Your Faith To Fit In With a Certain Crowd
[For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? Matthew 16:26] If you have to compromise on your standards to fit in with a crowd, it's not worth it. Just don't do it.
Peer pressure may not seem like a big deal in certain situations. You may be pressured to do something seemingly small, but then that choice leads to something bigger which leads to something bigger, and so on and so forth. Don't let others pressure you into doing what you know is wrong.
So you look in the mirror and realize that you don't look like the other girls. You're not as skinny as the popular girls, your hair isn't long and voluminous, your skin isn't perfectly clear. The world's standard of beauty is perfection. Therefore, no one fits the standard. Beauty is a matter of opinion. One person might think someone is beautiful, while another thinks they're not-so-beautiful. So how can there be one type of beauty or one standard of beauty? Everyone is made in God's image. Everyone is fearfully and wonderfully made. [I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. I know that full well. Psalm 139:14] Don't pay attention to what the world is saying about beauty. Don't listen to what magazines or celebs are saying you have to look like. You don't have to wear a ton of makeup, you don't have to wear revealing clothing, you don't have to be super skinny. There's nothing wrong with wearing makeup or working out, I do both of those things. But don't think that you have to do those things to be beautiful. If you have to change the way you look to fit in with a certain crowd or to be noticed by a certain guy, it's not worth it. God cares about you, loves you, and accepts you no matter what you look like. After all, he created you. Your beauty does not define your worth. No matter what the world tries to tell you, your worth doesn't increase the more beautiful you are. When it comes to beauty and looks, people always want what they don't have. If they have straight hair, they want curly. If they have white skin, they want brown. If they have brown eyes, they want green. etc. etc. My dad and his side of the family are from Hawaii so I have brown skin. Everyone always tells me "Oh my gosh your skin is so beautiful I wish my skin was your color". We need to learn to be happy with the skin, hair, and eye color that God gave us. I know that many of you reading this feel like you would be prettier if certain parts of you looked different. I don't want you to feel alone in this, so I'm going to go ahead and let you know that I sometimes struggle with this too. Sometimes I find myself wishing I had green eyes instead of brown, wishing I had blonde hair instead of brown. I used to wish I had white skin instead of brown, but I've gotten so many compliments on my skin color that I've learned to be happy that I have brown skin. So you are not alone in this. But you have to know that God created you exactly how he wanted you to look. If he had wanted you to have different colored hair, skin, or eyes, or if he had wanted you to be skinnier, he would have done it. But he didn't. He has a reason for creating you the way he did. So don't worry about what the world is saying about beauty or about what you're "supposed to" look like. Trust me, he knew what he was doing when he created you the way he did.
It seems like everyone has a boyfriend nowadays. You might feel like you're the only one who doesn't have a boyfriend. Maybe your parents won't allow you to date, or maybe you just haven't found the right guy yet. Well guess what, you're not the only one. I don't have a boyfriend either. Most of my friends don't have boyfriends. But let me give you a piece of advice. Don't get into a relationship just because everyone else is in one. Your friends may be pressuring you to get a boyfriend, but just don't do it. Don't do it until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the guy God wants you to be dating. God has a perfect plan for your life [For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11]. Don't ruin his plan so that you can have the temporary satisfaction of having a boyfriend right now. You don't need a boyfriend to make your life complete. So many people think that they do. But our life isn't completed by people, it's completed by God, the author of our life. Your self-worth isn't defined by whether or not you have a boyfriend. It's designed by God. If you just go out and get a boyfriend just because it's the norm and everyone else is doing it, you won't have the true satisfaction of knowing that you're following God's desire for your relationship. Only God can give you lasting satisfaction. You may be satisfied for a short time, but you won't get lasting satisfaction unless you are trusting God that he knows what is best for you in the dating department. He knows when the right time for you to have a boyfriend is, and he knows the exact person who you are going to date and marry. Don't ruin God's plan by rushing ahead into a relationship.
Summer is coming to an end and school is starting soon. Some of you might go to a private school, you might go to public school, or you might be homeschooled, like me ;). But whether you go to a Christian school or a public one, you're likely to meet people who aren't saved. People who will ridicule you for your faith. And you'll have the decision to either hide your faith so you're not looked at as "religious" or "uncool", or to share the gospel to the people in your halls despite the mockery you may receive. If you are a Christian, then you probably have a desire to share the Gospel, you're just afraid of what people will think. Don't feel bad, I've been there too. You also may be pressured to ditch your faith so that you are able to fit into a certain crowd. Here are 4 tips for how to keep your faith when you're pressured to forget about it.
1. Get A Good Christian Friend Or 2
You won't feel so alone in your faith if you have a Christian friend. Another reason to have a strong Christian friend is because if you do find yourself falling away from your faith, they'll be there to help guide you back to the narrow path. [Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10]
2. Don't put your self in a position where you might find yourself compromising on your faith
Set boundaries. Say to yourself, "okay, i'm not going to hang around the kids known for making trouble" so that you don't feel pressured to join them and in the process, throw your faith out the window. [Do not be deceived: "Bad company ruins good morals. 1 Corinthians 15:33]
3. Your faith is strengthened when you share it
If you are regularly trying to get others to come to church or just talking about God, then you'll be less likely to disregard your faith. Plus, Jesus commands us to share the gospel [And he said to them, "Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation." Mark 16:15]
4. Don't worry about what people think of you
I'm gonna be straight with you. You might lose friends because of your faith. People will probably think you're weird or stupid for believing in God. But that won't matter when we're in heaven.
There are 4 tips for how to keep your faith in school. Check out this post if you're afraid of losing friends When You Feel Like An Outcast
I don't even know how many times I've felt like an outcast. How many times I'm with a group of people and I have to force my way into "the circle". Most times I just give up. I tell myself that I'll always be on the outside of the circle. I tell myself that no one wants to be friends with me, that no one wants to let me into their group. I felt like that for a long time. But then my best friend talked to me and told me that it didn't matter if I was accepted into the group because even if I have zero friends, Jesus will always be there. I wish I could say that I listened to her right away. But I can't. It actually took me years to finally realize that she was right. I don't want you to spend years feeling like an outcast like I did. No matter how much of an outcast you think you are, you're never an outcast to Jesus. He is always with you even when you can't feel Him [A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24]. Who do you think that friend is? If you guessed Jesus, then give yourself a pat on the back because you're right. Even your brother or sister will leave the house and start a life on their own. But Jesus will never leave your side. He loves you more than you could even begin to imagine. He laid down His very own life for you. He died a sinner's death so that you could be His friend. He would've done it if you were the only person in the world. And He'd do it again in a heartbeat if He had to. You might have only a few friends, or you might have no friends at all. But remember that even when no one wants to let you into their circle, you have a friend that sticks closer than a brother. And that friend is Jesus.
[Cast all your anxiety on him, for he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7]
Today's post is a continuous from Friday. If you didn't catch it, you can read it here Don't Be Anxious. Today I will give a 5 lettered acronym to help you overcome anxiety.
The first step to overcoming anxiety is to be B.R.A.V.E.
Sometimes, especially when life gets hectic and you start to get anxious, you just need to breathe. We can get anxious over a lot of different things (see my last post for specifics). Just stop and take a breath.
Sometimes, God allows us to go through things so that when we get anxious, we can remember what he helped us through and think "He helped me through it once, He can help me through it again".
Sometimes, God is just waiting for us to ask Him for help. If we faithfully ask, He will help us. That's a promise [The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. Psalm 37:17].
Even when we can't see Jesus in the midst of our storms, we can visualize Him with our heart.
When you're climbing a mountain, the pressure goes down the higher up you go. You may be in the valley right now but as you climb up the mountain, the pressure will decrease.
God commands us to not be anxious. He says that if we cast all our anxiety on Him He will care for us. When you're battling anxiety, remember to be BRAVE.
My name is Tiana. I'm a 13 year old Christian blogger from Louisiana. I started this blog because I wanted to help other girls who are struggling with this stuff, which I used to struggle with but overcame through Jesus Christ. People say I have a talent for writing, so I believe this is God's way of me using my talent to glorify Him!