I once read in a book that you were supposed to write a list with all the characteristics you want in your future husband, pray about it, and God will give you the perfect guy that matches all your characteristic preferences. That sounds like it'd be good to do, right? Wrong. Because the book wasn't talking about personality characteristics that line up with what the Bible says a godly guy should be. It was talking about physical characteristics. The book was saying that you should write down whether you want your husband to have brown eyes or green eyes, blonde hair or black hair, and that God would give him to you if you prayed about it. Now, I'm not saying that God won't give him to you, or that that's wrong to do. If you want to have a list of physical features that you want your husband to have, go for it. But don't base your relationship with the guy off of that. Because in 1 Samuel 16:7, the Bible says: "For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart". You need to focus more on inner beauty than outer beauty. Here are 3 Bible-based characteristics that you should want in your future husband:
1. Christian If your husband isn't a Christian, then the whole relationship will go downhill and fast. The Bible says: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14. If you have different beliefs about God, then you're going to disagree on questions like: will your children/family go to church? will you pray before meals? and so on. You shouldn't go into a relationship thinking you can change the guy and convert him to christianity. Yes that could happen, but more times than not you're going to find yourself thinking that you have to compromise your standards so that he'll love and accept you. The best way to avoid that difficult situation is to only date/marry a Christian. 2. Self-Controlled This one's short and simple. No one wants to marry a fool. Proverbs 29:11 says: "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end." If your husband can't control his temper, he's a fool. 3. Forgiving We are human. We make mistakes. Therefore, we must have a husband who is forgiving. Grudges can ruin a marriage. You want a husband who is willing to understand the fact that no one is perfect and that you will make mistakes, and who is willing to forgive and forget. So there are, in my opinion, the top 3 characteristics that you should want in a future husband.
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You've been there. I've been there. We've all been there. You look in the mirror and think "Why couldn't God make me pretty like all the other girls?" You think that you have no self worth because of your so-called lack of beauty. Well lemme tell you something. You are beautiful. I know what you're thinking. How do I know you're beautiful without even seeing what you look like? Because the Bible said so. "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well." Psalm 139:13-14 NIV. Just in case you didn't catch what King David was trying to say here, you are wonderfully made. You are beautiful. You know, the one thing that puzzles me the most is that we obsess so much over something that we have no control over. I mean sure, you can pile on the makeup, you can dye, cut, or style your hair, you can even get color changing contacts. But underneath all that is still the same beautiful eyes, hair, and face that God himself created. When we try to alter what God created, we're basically saying that what he made wasn't good enough for us. When we call ourselves ugly, that is an insult to God. How? Because "God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them." Genesis 1:27 NIV. We were created in God's own image. So when we call ourselves ugly, we're calling God ugly. Bet you never saw it that way. God created us exactly how he wanted us to look. "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus..." Ephesians 2:10 NIV. So whether you have blue eyes or brown eyes, blonde hair or black hair, white skin or brown skin, you are beautiful.
Hey! Thanks so much for choosing to read my blog. I'm going to use this first post to tell you a bit about myself. I'm going to basically give you a list of facts about myself. My name is Tiana. I'm a 13 year old Christian girl. I'm in 9th grade. I'm homeschooled. I'm the oldest of 6 kids. I live in a little city (which, by the way, has absolutely nothing to do for fun) in southern Louisiana. Now, a few things I love: reading (I could literally live in a library), softball, photography, cooking, writing, singing (I'm a singer on my youth group's worship team), & listening to music. I have to stop there or I'll keep going on and on. 😂 I plan on going to Tulane University School of Medicine to become a Pediatrician when I finish high school. So there's the most important facts about me! Now I want to say a few things about the blog and what to expect. This blog was originally intended to speak to the girls with beauty insecurities. The idea to start a blog popped into my head one day when I was praying about how God wants me to use my writing talent for Him. So I was like, "Okay God, that sounds fun. I'll do it". Then I was praying about a topic for awhile. God placed the topic of beauty insecurities on my heart because it's something I struggled with for a really long time, and I have friends who are currently struggling with it. But through Christ, I have overcome those beauty insecurities and I have a desire to help other girls who were just like me to find the truth that they are fearfully and wonderfully made. As you've probably noticed, that is the name of this blog. The name was inspired by Psalm 134:14, which is also at the top of the screen. But anyways, even though beauty insecurities was the original topic for the blog, I don't want the blog to be limited to a specific group of girls. So I'm going to venture out of the beauty topic a little bit. Some of the main topics will probably be beauty insecurities, what God says about a godly dating relationship, relationships with friends, what a godly woman looks like, and any other random topics that come to mind. Some of the posts might be longer, while others might be shorter. I'll probably stick with the shorter posts since I'm a short story writer and that's what I'm used to. I'll probably be posting about twice a week, on Tuesdays and Fridays. Some weeks it might be more or less, depending on how busy I am. So in closing of this first blog post, I'd like to pray. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for showing me a way to use my talents for you in a way that I love. Please lead the right people to my blog, the people who need to hear this. I know there are plenty of girls out there who need to hear the words that you have given me. Please let them be open to what you have to say and help them find freedom in all the areas of their life that they are struggling with. Thank you and I love you. In Jesus' Name, Amen!
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