If you have a boyfriend, or even if you don't and there's just some guy that you like, you might have found yourself thinking "is he the one?" It can be hard to know if your boyfriend or your potential boyfriend is the guy God wants you to marry. Here are a few questions to ask yourself before moving too far into a relationship.
1. Is He A Christian? This is the most important question you need to ask. If the answer is no, then he is definitely not the one for you. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, [Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?] This verse makes it very clear that we are not to be in a relationship with a non-Christian. 2. Does My Family Support Our Relationship? God has placed your family in your life for a reason. Yes, they may get on your nerves. A lot. But they can also provide helpful and godly advice; that is, if they're a Christian. If not, then I encourage you to ask your pastor, youth pastor, or mentor if they think you should move further into the relationship. Ask your parents, siblings, mentor, or another godly role model that is involved in your life. Then listen to them. Whatever they tell you will be for your own good. 3. Is Christ the Central Focus Of Our Relationship? Or is everything about you and him? Do you guys pray together and for each other, do you read the Bible together regularly, serve together, etc? There is nothing wrong with spending time together and talking about yourself and your hopes and dreams for the future, your struggles, and other things in your life. But you and your boyfriend should not be the main focus of your relationship. Jesus should be. 4. Does He Respect My Standards and Boundaries? A guy who truly cares about you will honor your standards. And he'll have a few of his own, too. If he doesn't respect your boundaries and standards, then he's probably not the one for you. There isn't a one-size-fits-all mold when it comes to relationships. But if you answered no to any of these questions, then that is a red flag and maybe you shouldn't go any further in this relationship. Also, don't only ask these questions and if you answered yes to all of them just rush right into a relationship. Pray. Seek God wholeheartedly and listen and wait for Him to speak to you. Keep an open heart and mind. Don't be closed off to what the red flags might be saying just because you like the guy.
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