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If you don’t have a boyfriend, am I right to assume that you wish you had one? It’s hard looking around me and seeing all the other girls my age with their boyfriends. I sometimes wish that I had a boyfriend. But at the same time, I don’t want a boyfriend. Because I don’t want to just get a boyfriend just because everyone else has one. I want to wait for the guy that God has for me. The point of dating isn’t to make sure you’re not sitting at home doing nothing every weekend. It’s not so you can go tell all your friends that your crush finally asked you out. The point of dating is to find the person you’re going to marry. If you currently have a boyfriend, I want you to ask yourself the following question: “would I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy?” If the answer is no, then why are you in a relationship with him? Just for fun? Just so you’ll have something to talk about with your friends when y’all hang out? Are those really valid reasons for wanting a boyfriend? I don’t think so. I read a lot of blogs and books directed to single girls, and one thing they all have in common is that they all state something along these lines, “Take a minute to truly look at yourself and ask yourself ‘am I ready for marriage right now?’ If the answer is no, then don’t date.” However, I can’t agree with that. I, at 14, am not ready to be married right at this exact second. But does that mean I’m not ready to date? Not necessarily. In my opinion, no one knows if they’re truly ready for marriage until they’re married. After all, there’s not a one-size-fits-all mold for what a “marriage ready” person is supposed to look like. While someone may be ready for marriage at age 19, another person might not be ready until they’re 35. It all depends on your spiritual and mental maturity level. There’s also not a “correct age” for dating. Once again, it depends on your spiritual and mental maturity level. If there’s someone you’re considering dating, or if you’re wondering if you’re ready to date, think about these three things. 1. Is Your Relationship With God Where It Should Be? If it’s not, then that’s a sure sign that you’re not ready to date. Work on your relationship with God before you try to start or continue your relationship with a guy. 2. Ask God For Advice There’s no one wiser than God. If you’re not sure whether or not you’re ready, ask your Heavenly Father. Then really listen to His answer. Don’t block out His voice just because you’re afraid that He’ll say no. Trust me, you’d rather be out of a relationship but in His will, than in a relationship but out of His will. 3. Talk To Your Parents Ask your parents if they think you’re ready. You may think that if they say no they’re just trying to ruin your life, but it’s not true. They just want the best for you. If they say that you’re not ready to have a boyfriend, respect them and their decision, and listen to their reason. Keep in mind that just because you have a good relationship with God and your parents think you’re ready for a relationship, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are ready. And if you have the green light on all three things we just talked about, ask God if the guy you’re wanting to date is the right one for you. Remember, the purpose of dating is to find your lifelong marriage partner. Keep these three things in mind when you’re wondering if you’re ready for a boyfriend.
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