I once read in a book that you were supposed to write a list with all the characteristics you want in your future husband, pray about it, and God will give you the perfect guy that matches all your characteristic preferences. That sounds like it'd be good to do, right? Wrong. Because the book wasn't talking about personality characteristics that line up with what the Bible says a godly guy should be. It was talking about physical characteristics. The book was saying that you should write down whether you want your husband to have brown eyes or green eyes, blonde hair or black hair, and that God would give him to you if you prayed about it. Now, I'm not saying that God won't give him to you, or that that's wrong to do. If you want to have a list of physical features that you want your husband to have, go for it. But don't base your relationship with the guy off of that. Because in 1 Samuel 16:7, the Bible says: "For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart". You need to focus more on inner beauty than outer beauty. Here are 3 Bible-based characteristics that you should want in your future husband:
1. Christian If your husband isn't a Christian, then the whole relationship will go downhill and fast. The Bible says: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14. If you have different beliefs about God, then you're going to disagree on questions like: will your children/family go to church? will you pray before meals? and so on. You shouldn't go into a relationship thinking you can change the guy and convert him to christianity. Yes that could happen, but more times than not you're going to find yourself thinking that you have to compromise your standards so that he'll love and accept you. The best way to avoid that difficult situation is to only date/marry a Christian. 2. Self-Controlled This one's short and simple. No one wants to marry a fool. Proverbs 29:11 says: "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end." If your husband can't control his temper, he's a fool. 3. Forgiving We are human. We make mistakes. Therefore, we must have a husband who is forgiving. Grudges can ruin a marriage. You want a husband who is willing to understand the fact that no one is perfect and that you will make mistakes, and who is willing to forgive and forget. So there are, in my opinion, the top 3 characteristics that you should want in a future husband.
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Rissy
6/7/2017 08:57:53 am
I am so glad I found your blog!
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